Cuckolding 101 – The Lows

Last time, we talked about the joys of cuckolding. If you want a cuckolding experience that’s all joy, best stick to fantasizing. You’re in bed with your wife or girlfriend. She tells you, ‘Babe, I’ve been a naughty girl again. You see, there was this hot guy ….’ She tells you the story and you have great sex, but the situation disappears as soon as you’ve both cum. You turn off the light and go to sleep with your woman in your arms.

Reality is a bit different. The cuckold has to get used to loneliness and/or awkwardness, depending on the situation. A hot wife/girlfriend might do her cuckolding away from home – in her bull’s house, a hotel room, or his car. This leaves the cuckold home alone. As I talked about in my post about The Highs, this can be an exciting time. Images of what she might be up to race through your head and your biggest challenge is stopping yourself from cumming before she gets home. However, it can also be a lonely time. You might find yourself wishing desperately she were with you and wondering why you ever thought this cuckold crap was a good idea. It can also be a worrying time. She’s put herself in a vulnerable position with another man. What do you know about this guy, anyway? How can you be sure he’s not a serial killer? Is the next call going to be from the police, saying she’s been found dead at the side of the road? None of this is likely, but you’re in such a highly charged emotional state that your mind starts playing tricks. You want her to text you, not with explicit details of what she’s doing, but just to say she’s all right.

The other possibility is that she does her cuckolding at home. Some couples prefer this as there’s an added erotic thrill when the infidelity happens right there in the marital bed. This has the advantage that, if anything does happen to turn the scene sour, the cuckold can step in to protect her. The disadvantage, though, is that it’s socially awkward. If you’ve read my first book, Come Home With Us, you’ll remember Rob asking himself, ‘What do you say to the man who’s come to fuck your wife?’ We don’t think about this when we’re fantasizing. She says, ‘I was in bed with this hot guy,’ without giving much thought to what had to be done and said to get him there. But now you’ve got a real guy in your house. Do you talk about the weather? Do you offer him a drink? My advice is to move as quickly as possible to discussing what he came here to do. It’s important to establish the ground rules. Is kissing permissible? It’s often painful for the cuckold to watch his woman kiss another man. Is it deliciously humiliating or a step too far? Is oral/anal sex on the table the first time or something to keep for later? Most of all, it’s crucial that everyone is clear on whether the bull is staying the night or not. Some couples like him to. The cuckold’s degradation is complete when he slinks off to the spare room or the couch, leaving his wife or girlfriend to sleep in her stud’s arms. Others want the bull to leave as soon as possible so they can discuss everything that’s happened in microscopic detail.

Reality is rarely as good as the fantasy. While the life of the cuckold is rarely dull, there will be times when it seems like a really bad idea and you ask yourself, ‘What the hell was I thinking?’